Posts Tagged ‘Authenticity’

I Totally Screwed Up… Again!

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Yep, I did it again. Totally screwed up. But this time, not on purpose.

Awhile back, I spoke at an ICFNW Coaches Meeting. I guess it’s not fair to say I “totally” screwed up. I developed a new presentation with solid content that I organized well—that was good. I knew the material cold—that was good. And I delivered the talk with decent presentations skills, such as voice tone, pausing, and gesturing—that was good.

So where did I fail?

I didn’t show up.

Ironically, a big point in my presentation was this: Continue reading: “I Totally Screwed Up… Again!”

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Smiling is Overrated

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One of the first times I watched video of myself presenting I was shocked to find I didn’t smile. At all. For the entire six hours.

I’m not sure why I was shocked, since, it appears that I’ve had a smiling problem for quite some time. (Yes, that’s me, down below.)

Just last year, a good friend and colleague called me out for my LinkedIn photo. “You look scary,” she said. And she’s probably right.

Here’s the thing: smiling is overrated.  Continue reading: “Smiling is Overrated”

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I Am Amazing. And Broken. Just Like You.

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Every January, a brand new year begins, full of promise. Every square on the calendar is empty, waiting for us to fill it with life well-lived. The beginning of this year is more special to me than most, as some good friends just welcomed a brand new baby girl into their family. This new year brings with it new life, also full of promise.

When you see a newborn baby, you can’t help but be awed by how beautiful and amazing human beings are. (This is especially true if the baby is sleeping, as opposed to crying.) I have an acquaintance who recently gave birth to a son with cleft palate—and it struck me that the birth defect could not diminish the sweetness and beauty of that little boy.

My daugher, Juliana, holding our friends’ new baby, Emma.

It’s not how babies look that makes them amazing—it’s who and what they are. Those precious snuggly cuddle-bugs are a bundle of gifts and talents, personality quirks, strengths, emotions, and unique traits that make each of them a work of art.

That goes for every person on the planet.

Yes, everyone. Everyone is amazing.

The problem is that we’re also broken. Continue reading: “I Am Amazing. And Broken. Just Like You.”

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This Week’s Continuation of My Online Narrative

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Last week I stopped in Powell’s to pick up a couple of birthday cards, and came across the Corporate Flashcard Pack. “Speak suit in mere days!” the box promised.

I had to laugh. I’m constantly trying to convince people to un-learn corporate speak. (Or legalese or government lingo…) We think technical language makes us sound credible, when it almost always gets in the way.

Take a client I was working with recently. About one minute into her presentation I was completely lost. Phrases like “independent distribution channels” and “fundamental performance of the index” made me completely tune out.

I mean really. Can’t we just say client instead of “end user?”

If we’re truly interested in getting our message across in a way that’s informative, engaging, and memorable, we have to drop the “corporate speak.” Instead:

1. Use the simplest language you can get away with. Instead of “revenue stream” say “monthly payments.” Don’t say, “I am herewith returning the stipulation to dismiss in the above entitled matter; the same being duly executed by me,” when you could say, “I have signed and enclosed the stipulation to dismiss the Byrd case.”* Delivering a memorable presentation is like dropping bread crumbs along a path. Throw in a word or phrase that causes confusion and your listener is now lost in the woods.

2. Incorporate stories and analogies. We learn best through stories. Our brains are wired that way. Stories are engaging and easy to remember. The number one way to make dry, boring data relatable is to pepper stories and analogies throughout.

3. Rely on nonverbal communication to deliver your message powerfully. Increase your pausing. Use purposeful gesturing. Become an excellent breather. Play around with voice patterns. Nonverbal communication transmits the majority of any message. Use less technical language and more powerful nonverbals to get your message across.

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Maybe there really are people who naturally use terms like “strategic initiative” and “core competency.” But I doubt it. Every single time I stop a client and ask them to explain what they just said so I can understand it, they say, “Well, what I’m really trying to say is…” and BOOM, it makes sense.

In other words, they’re able to reverbiagize, repurposing what was formerly a pain point, thus resulting in a paradigm shift.

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*Thanks to the The Trial Practice Tips Weblog for this example!

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The Big Cover Up

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Three weeks ago, I wrote a blog called “Reduce your IQ (Idiocy Quotient).” One reader complained that I was being overly critical of a certain type of person. I was reminded of this when I went swimsuit shopping.

It’s been years since I bought a new swimsuit, so I decided this summer it was time. I wanted one that covered my wobbly bits, but I also wanted one that suited (ha!) my personality—you know… fun, classy, and bold enough to attract attention without being obnoxious.

I ended up with a fabulous, stylish suit, if I say so myself, that covers up everything a swimsuit can possibly cover, and more. It’s not that I’m ashamed of my body and all the wrinkles, stretch marks, and general floppiness… Hey, I earned those by bringing two darling little girls into the world. Yet I don’t feel the need to share those flappy, wrinkly parts with all creation either.

But am I being “inauthentic” by covering up my jiggly parts? Continue reading: “The Big Cover Up”

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