Posts Tagged ‘Influence’

I Totally Screwed Up… Again!

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Yep, I did it again. Totally screwed up. But this time, not on purpose.

Awhile back, I spoke at an ICFNW Coaches Meeting. I guess it’s not fair to say I “totally” screwed up. I developed a new presentation with solid content that I organized well—that was good. I knew the material cold—that was good. And I delivered the talk with decent presentations skills, such as voice tone, pausing, and gesturing—that was good.

So where did I fail?

I didn’t show up.

Ironically, a big point in my presentation was this: Continue reading: “I Totally Screwed Up… Again!”

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Personality is Overrated

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What’s your personality type? Are you a “Type A driver?” No? Maybe you’re more of a “Type C feeler.” Or perhaps you’re an ESTJ or an INFJ or maybe an INFP.

Is it just me, or is all that type casting exhausting?

Rachel tells a story of taking a personality test in high school that supposedly guided you to the right career path. Your answers got translated into some sort of pie chart: one wedge represented the field you’d be most happy with, say, “arts.” You could potentially be happy choosing a career in the wedge to the right or left as well. But choose a wedge on the other side of the chart and you might as well kiss any career satisfaction good-bye. Rachel got her results and, due to boredom, took the test again in another class. This time, however, her results were the complete opposite!

The more we try to nail down personality, the more confused we’ll get. Why? Because “personality” isn’t static. Continue reading: “Personality is Overrated”

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Influence is Just a Fancy Word for Manipulation

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What’s the difference between influence and manipulation?

Um. One sounds nicer?

Yes, I know. People want more influence. And many people think nonverbal communication skills will lead to more influence. Heck, even I’ve bandied around the term influence before in my blogs and workshops.

But recently I’ve come to the realization that influence is just a fancy word for manipulation.

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